According to ancient tradition, the bride is not supposed to show her face to the groom at all before the wedding. Of course, these customs took place while most people had arranged marriages, so it was common to not meet until your wedding day. Over time the tradition has molded into the couple not seeing each other until the bride walks down the aisle on your wedding day. While tradition says that you shouldn’t see the bride before the wedding ceremony, many couples are now opting to see each other before the ceremony: a First Look

Your wedding day will be filled with many emotions: calmness, excitement, laughter, tears, and joy. But, you’ll feel the biggest rush of emotions when you see your fiancé for the first time on your wedding day.  At Majestic Gardens, many couples have their ceremony on-site so for the First Look, the groom usually is waiting for the bride in the gardens, and then she comes in and they see each other for the first time before the ceremony.  Of course, the photographer is there to capture the moment and all the emotions.  The First Look can be very private with just the couple and the photographer or you can include the entire wedding party and the family. 

              With the First Look, you will have already had a chance to get through the emotions of seeing each other for the first time and the whirlwind of feelings that come that day.  When walking down the aisle, while you may still be nervous, hopefully, you will have already experienced many of the overwhelming emotions and be more at ease. Another reason you should consider a First Look is so that you can enjoy your entire wedding reception. Typically, most couples take pictures after the ceremony, and many times you are not able to attend the cocktail hour to greet your guests.  This means that you will spend part of the reception going from table to table to welcome your guests.  With a First Look, you take pictures before the ceremony, so that after you say “I do” you join the cocktail hour and greet your guests. 

              A First Look is a beautiful way to start off your special day, whether it’s to have that special moment with your soon to be partner, or it’s to just have a few seconds of one on one time before you make the big walk down the aisle, or even to take pictures beforehand. A First Look is definitely something to consider but if you are more traditional, then seeing each other for the first time as you walk down the aisle may be for you.  It is your wedding day so the most important thing is to do what is best for you.  For some great First Look ideas, go to https://www.theknot.com/content/16-first-looks-you-dont-want-to-miss

Q:

I love my groom dearly and want to look into his eyes on the morning of the wedding! (Though this does not mean I plan to spend the night with him.) He wants to invite the entire wedding party to his house for a wedding day breakfast. Can I go, or am I left out in the cold? It seems to me there is some wedding tradition of not seeing the groom on the wedding day.

A:

There is a tradition of the bride and groom not seeing each other on their wedding day, but it stems from the ancient tradition of the bride not showing her face to the groom at all before the wedding! Many couples adhere to the not-seeing-each-other custom because they feel it adds excitement and anticipation to the ceremony itself — you know, the moment he sees you coming up the aisle. Other couples feel they’ll be more relaxed if they see each other before the ceremony — more and more even take formal pictures pre-ceremony, when everyone’s freshly done up — and claim that 15 minutes alone with their beloved calms them for the main event. It’s completely up to you two. If you’ll be bummed out that everyone else is enjoying the pre-wedding breakfast, go! And if you really want to lay eyes on your man before the wedding, do!

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